Pre-Program Jitters

Whenever we set out on a healing path that involves getting in touch with our feelings, even if only superficially, we get the jitters. It is perfectly natural that we do. Here’s two reasons why.

1. If we have, up to this point, dealt with our feelings about certain issues by using one or more of the defence mechanisms like suppression, repression, denial, sublimation and projection, we are bound to feel anxious at the prospect of dropping our defenses and letting the feelings come to the surface. It means becoming vulnerable, even if only to ourselves. That’s scary.
2. We may already be aware of the strength and intensity of our feelings and fear that, if we allow ourselves freedom to express them, we may lose control or end up feeling much worse than at the beginning. We fear we might say or do things that could hurt people. We might also feel guilt and shame about having these feelings.

Both of these can apply to many feelings you may have towards your parents, so it is not surprising that you would have doubts and jitters about doing this 21-day healing program. You might feel that you’d be opening Pandora’s box.

It really isn’t that bad at all, but if the doubt and fear is more than you know how to cope with, or you simply want to talk it over with a Radical Forgiveness Coach, we would recommend that you select a coach from those listed on the web site certified in coaching this particular program and book a session with them. One session might be all you need just to settle your doubts about doing it. On the other hand you might find it helpful to have a session or two during the 21 days as well. At the very least you would have someone to call if you did begin to feel unsettled. Click here to see a list of coaches.